Sep 11Liked by Darren Haber

"Consider the convolution that is spoken or written word. Raw impression (image, word, perspective, feeling, concept, etc.) forms or arrives in our mind. Our perception (or misperception) and its interpretation (or misinterpretation) is then encoded into language using diction based on personal comprehension, connotations, and otherwise preformed notions in an effort to convey the impression to another. On the receiving end, decoding the language goes through the same process in reverse amidst the same twists and turns. By then the original impression has been invariably altered – in a range from slightly skewed to hopelessly unrecognizable. This has been ‘normal’ throughout recorded history. Is it any wonder we accomplish anything at all – let alone the so-called ‘impossible’."


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Are you on Instagram? Oh God, it hurts me so bad how didactic things have become there. I think what you're saying is if we're using therapy speak to distance ourselves emotionally, then it's not going to help. And that is so true and yet it's the rage on Insta.

On Insta, I see therapists post on 'Here are 4 ways to set a boundary/say no' and they'll literally write down the dialogues for it. Like seriously, people don't know how to speak and you had to write the dialogues for it? It really boils my blood.

I loved your music analogy, the reference to Jonah Hill (classic case of using therapy speak to avoid vulnerability like you pointed out) and this sentence in particular: "What of my anxiety or anger is being irritated, and why? This last piece is missing in so much of our discourse. We instantly know what is being said, and form strong opinions, forgetting we have our own way of hearing."

That really spoke to me. And getting to that is becoming harder and harder.

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