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This is a lovely reminder, Darren, of the unique meaning that someone's silence can have for us...in this setting, in that situation, on this day, with that person...

I think it was helpful to you that Jane took the risk to even express her irritation about your silence, and fortuitous for her that you possess the capacity to reflect upon the unique meaning that moment had for her. It's touching how even one moment of interaction can reveal a lifetime of interpersonal shaping when we can slow down and get quiet enough inside to dwell in our, and the other's experience. Thanks for the invitation to reflect on all of this...

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Thank *you* for your time and feedback, much appreciated! Jane and I were a good fit which is why she felt safe enough to be vulnerable with irritation. I like the phrase you used, a lifetime of interpersonal shaping.

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It's so wonderful when it's a good match like that! I value those matches probably as much as the patient does, or maybe even a little more. Thank you for your kind words, Darren...I love your writing! :)

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Much appreciated. 🙏🏽

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